Three of the most basic coaching questions are:
Where would you like to be?
What's stopping you from getting there?
So, where are you now? What does it feel like to be you on a daily basis? Take a minute to think about your current circumstances. Are you financially behind? Are you overweight and frustrated? Do you seem to have it together on the outside, but feel yourself crumbling on the inside? Are you living your daily life with anxiety? Are you unfulfilled? What are the things that are currently in your life that you wish were not there? Go ahead and make a list.
Okay, now to the second question (this is much more fun to think about). Where would you like to be? It may be helpful to give yourself a time frame here, so let's say in 5 years. Do you want to be a homeowner or move to a new town? Would you like to have a different career? Be 30lbs lighter? Own your own business? Living anxiety free and comfortable in your own skin? In a healthy relationship? I'm just throwing out ideas here, but take a moment to really think about what you want your life to look like in 5 years. What are the things that are currenty NOT in your life, that you would like to show up?
Believe it or not, if you actually DO what I suggest with question two, you are already ahead of the curve! Most people like to complain about where they are, but don't give much detailed thought to where they want to go. But here's the thing, you'll never get there if you don't know where THERE is!!!
So now that you know where you are (and can feel the discomfort of it), and you have a pretty good idea of where you would like to go (and are probably feeling the excitement of that), what's stopping you? What are the things that are holding you back?
Have you made your list? Now, at the top of this list, write the following title: EXCUSES. I know, many of you are already protesting and want to explain to me why your reasons are totally legitimate. I don't doubt that they are. We all have legitimate excuses, but if we really want to get the life we've just described, we have to find a way to eliminate the answers to number three. The hard truth is that if you keep doing what you are currently doing, in 5 years, we'll find that nothing has changed. You will still be HERE, and THERE will still be 5 years away.
One of the BEST ways to get out of your own way and eliminate excuses is in a group setting with the support of others (a team environment). If your vision for yourself includes becoming physically healthy and finding balance in your roles as mom, wife, and self, I'd like to invite you to my 50 Day Shrink While You Grow Challenge. I'll help you to shrink physically while you grow personally. We'll re-shape your body and re-program your mind, and at the end of the 50 days you'll be on track to have the life you envision!
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